So my ex-sponsor just hung up on me. I was explaining how I would like his help in working the twelve steps. As I was letting him know that I had been clean for over 500 days he wanted me to start going to 90 meetings in 90 days. When I explained the process I had been through while dealing with COVID he completely dismissed me. It was as if he was an automated system with pre-programmed responses.
Just because a specific route worked for him doesn’t mean I have to take the same exact route. The are the statistics from AA’s 2014 membership survey.
- 27 percent of AA members stay sober for less than a year.
- 24 percent of AA members stay sober between one and 5 years.
- 13 percent of AA members stay sober between 5 and 10 years.
- 14 percent of AA members stay sober between 10 and 20 years.
- 22 percent of AA members stay sober 20 or more years.
- The average length of AA member sobriety is nearly 10 years.
When you think about the fact that there are millions of AA members that adds up to a lot of sobriety. But like everything else in life nothing is perfect.
I was explaining this new group I started and again he completely dismissed me.
This ended up being a positive experience for me. It let me know starting Addicts Anonymous was a great idea to help people such as myself. The one thing I’ve learned from my battles with mental illness and addiction is that I am not alone. Many others are suffering from and battling the same issues I face on a daily basis. Some of these old timers don’t understand and certainly don’t appreciate the times have changed so maybe sometimes the methods need to be looked over and possibly updated.
This is why groups branch out and form other groups. Everyone has a different mentality and not every method is right for everyone. So we create groups where we share the same background, methods and goals we’re looking to achieve.
A quick background on the forming of Alcholics Anonymous. When Bill Wilson’s friend Ebby stopped we was part of the Oxford Group. This was a catholic movement with some of the same steps that would eventually make it’s way into the ‘Big Book.” This included taking a moral inventory and the sharing of that inventory with someone trusted.
Bill took this program and envisioned it forming another group to deal with specifically alcoholics. Eventually he met Dr. Bob and the rest is history.
I was trying to discuss the possibility of Addicts Anonymous having in-person meetings and all of a sudden his demeanor changed completely. As if I was insulting his wife or mother. This suddenly became more of a sales call for Alcoholics Anonymous. He didn’t hear a word I said. I told him how in debt I was to twelve step programs and how I’ve poured through the literature and all he’s ever said when I mentioned literature is “well you have to live it.” Guess what, he’s totally right. But why not do meetings and read the book? Don’t dismiss the literature because you’re too lazy to read it. I feel this happens a lot with people like me probably.
I found that crazy enough to write this little blog post.
That’s all I got for now!